Honesty… is a hard concept for most people. I have met more dishonest and fake people than I have the honest ones. The few friends I still have are the brutally honest, don’t care how it makes you feel because you need to hear it, friends. I value them, they are real and true, they don’t hide behind a mask.
My mother used to say that it takes roughly about 6 months for people’s masks to come off. If you can wait that long you can truly see what the real person is like. I used to believe that… and most of the time it was true. Unfortunately there are some true talented actors out there. Ones that can pretend for the longest time until finally they deem you worthy enough to hear some messed up version of the truth. Their truth. They don’t want to hear what you have to say. It doesn’t matter to them. This leaves you to read between the lines because they are too much of a coward to be real.
It’s not only friends that act this way, it’s family too. My family is pretty fake when it comes to being around other people. When they are together though or around people that they are comfortable with… you see their true traits. It’s hard to be around them. I don’t like gossip and they are ridiculously caddy. I usually zone out when we are around them by messaging other people. I see this with my friend’s families too. Neither of which are healthy relationships.
I don’t like to lie, and I don’t like to sugar coat things. I prefer to tell you how it is because you need to hear it regardless of whether you will like it. Over the past several years this trait has been overshadowed by always worrying about what others will think. Now… As I have found my true friends, fake ones have left, and we work towards this better life, this trait will come back in full swing.